Saturday, January 10, 2015

Blood Letting 101 . . .

I have Hemochromatosis and the treatment is blood letting.  I suppose leeches would do but I prefer the be treated in a medical facility.

Hemochromatosis is an iron disorder in which the body simply loads too much iron. This action is genetic and the excess iron, if left untreated, can damage joints, organs, and eventually be fatal.

Funny thing is I would never have known without having a regular blood test.  When the level of iron became to high my regular doctor send me to a blood specialist.  The hematologist ordered an MRI of my liver to make sure the iron had not started to store. Thank God my liver is okay ... I need it for processing chardonnay.

I had my third treatment yesterday ... for the past three months a pint of blood has been taken from me.  Each time I go I have had a different nurse work on me and each time I learn something new.  It's amazing what you talk about with a complete stranger who is watching the blood drain out of you.  Yesterday I told the nurse that I noticed after the second treatment that my face wasn't as red as it use to be.  I always thought I had a ruddy complexion ... nope ... once my iron level is normal my skin will be nice and pale.  

I have the month of February off and in March I will have blood tests done and see the blood doctor. She will then determine how often I need to have the blood letting done in order to keep the iron at a normal level.  

I will be very tired for a few days but that's it ... and I have never minded needles ... so I feel pretty lucky that it was found and I am being treated.  But I would really love a nice filet mignon and those will be few and far between for me now.

Friday, August 15, 2014

Everything happens for a reason ...

I was sitting on my front steps reading ... It seems the only thing I do these days ... when I get home from work I force myself to eat a few bites of something and then retreat to the sunny front steps and read.  I have gone through books this summer at an alarming rate (for me anyway) ... always buying them ...  my sister tells me I should go to the library and check them out ...  but I tell her that if I love a book I want to keep it so I can read it again like watching an old movie over and over.  I have had no energy at all for months . . . thought it was part of this depression ...  I have heard that people who are depressed can't seem to enjoy or do things that they once loved ... I don't even want to iron ... and I love to iron.  Forget washing the kitchen floor or vacuuming the cat hair ... I went to the Dr. on Tuesday and was told that I needed a B-12 shot . . .  The Dr. told me that the level of B-12 in your blood should be 1100 and mine is 270 ... she said "you must be exhausted" ... "I am and depressed as hell" ...  So there I was Thursday night reading and a car slowly pulled up in front of my house slowly the window rolled down and an old woman asked if she could speak to me.  I went down to her and and she pointed to a house across the street and one house down and said "I live there and it's not that I watching you, but I am old and have nothing better to do than look out my window all day."  She told me that a cat circles my house all day as if doing guard duty ... a fluffy gray, brown cat.  She wanted to know if it was my cat ... I told her I had two cats in the house but that I had been feeding this stray cat for 3 years and had named him Smokie.  I explained that Smokie had disappeared a month ago and I have not seen him since.  She had not seen him recently herself.  What I did not tell her was that I didn't realize how much I care about that old cat until he licked my shin and looked up at me like he cared for me that morning he disappeared...Now knowing that he guarded my house everyday ... circling it over and over only made me sadder.    She told me it was finally nice to meet me after all these years ... She said her name was Mary ... I said "very nice to meet you Mary I am Sharon ... I have lived here for 23 years ... 20 with my ex- husband and 3 by myself" ... "Men" she said and shook her head as if she knew my story ... we both laughed and I said "maybe you knew my Grandfather, Alfred Jacobson, this was his home."  She lowered her head ... I thought she was trying to remember ... when she raised it she had a big smile on her face ... "Roy (as his good friends called him) was your grandfather ... Roy was a friend of my husbands and mine ... those boys loved their drinks!"  (I wanted to say I'm pretty fond of mine too) ... Then she looked puzzled and said I remember him saying several times that a Jacobson will always live in that house ... I told her how on his deathbed he had made me promise that a Jacobson would always live in his house ... and how I was the only person with him when he took his last breath ... and isn't it ironic that here I am living here and now with my maiden name back ... a Jacobson.  So everything happens for a reason ... if I hadn't been so exhausted everyday I would have done other things and not just sit on my front steps and read ... and I never would have met Mary or known about that fluffy cat and his guard duty ... and I would never have known that a statement my grandfather made some 60 years ago ... I have been able to make true ...

Monday, May 5, 2014

... there should be video cameras on me at all times

I have said it before ... I can't make this shit up ... and there should be video cameras on me at all times. This post truly should be titled "too much information" ... so feel free to stop reading now.  A few weeks ago I realized I had not done laundry in a week and decided it was time to do some ... my laundry room is in the basement and I avoid the basement unless I need clean clothes ... spiders and bugs and such.  Upon entering the laundry room I noticed that there a thick layer of garbage in the bottom of the double sink that my washing machine drains into ... after a lengthy spew of foul language ... I got some old rags and a trash bag and scooped all this goop into the bag ... sprayed the sinks down with a cleaner and ran the water to clean the sinks ... but the water did not drain ... plunger in hand I set to work.  NOPE ... the water was not going down.  Of course then I began to worry .... how much is this going to cost? ... what if it's a huge problem? ... I will have to take a loan against the house? ... I'll never get that new car because of stupid plumbing ... I had Martini  therapy that night and that usually makes me sleep like the dead but Nooooo I laid awake all night. I called my plumber the next day and explained the situation and he said to call his sewer guy and have the main sewer line snaked to the street ... I called and set up the appointment.  These two rather large gentlemen (and they both were large and gentlemen) one named "Moose" (in his mid twenties) and the other "Boss" (early thirties) set to work.  They opened the main sewer line and snaked it to the street bringing home some lovely tree roots.  That line was clear they had me run the water in the bath and it proved the line was now running.  They then ran the water in the in the double sinks and the water would not go down ... they huffed and puffed and plunged and the water still wouldn't go down.  They got the small snake and set to work ... after a while Moose said "I got it" and pulled something up.  The Boss said "yup those feminine products will do it every time." He says "you live here alone" as if to make sure it's mine ... "Yup ... just me!"  Now here is where the story gets good ... with the water logged and obviously used tampon swinging in the hand he has pointed at me he says ... "Really lady ... not a good idea to flush these" ... I said "I get it ... and I am a little uncomfortable with you holding that" ... The drains were clear and it only cost me $184 to be completely humiliated.  A side note ... I have now seen enough plumbers crack to last me a life time ... 

Friday, March 14, 2014


truth  (tro̅o̅th)
n. pl. truths (tro̅o̅thz, tro̅o̅ths)
1. Conformity to fact or actuality.
2. A statement proven to be or accepted as true.
3. Sincerity; integrity.
4. Fidelity to an original or standard.
a. Reality; actuality.
b. often Truth That which is considered to be the supreme reality and to have the ultimate meaning and value of existence.

Truth be told ... all I ask is for the truth ... I am very easy to please ... just tell me the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts ... but it is what it is and living in a lie is not living.   When my marriage of twenty years (based on lies) ended three years ago I vowed never to be with anyone ... family, friend, or lover ... that was not honest with me at all times.  Living with the truth one is able to make decisions and function in reality.  Lies are not reality.  Only in reality is one truly living.  Sincerity ... honesty ... integrity ... these are the qualities I look for in a friend.  

Imagine then the shock and awe of realizing that someone you completely trust with all your being has been lying to you on so many levels ... recently I was brought back to the place I was in three years ago ... asking myself what was wrong with me ... why was I not worthy of a friendship ... a relationship of respect and truth. 

It took some time for me to realize that there is nothing wrong with me ... that expecting that from someone that you trust is normal ... believing that someone you love cares for you, has integrity and won't hurt you ... 

I believe that for every wound comes a lesson and I have to learn from this ... what I will learn from this is still a mystery ... but as I heal I will figure it out ... I know one thing that I learned three years ago ...  not all people will hurt you ... not all people lie ... sometimes I am just so blinded by my love for the other person that I can't see the forest for the trees ... caring deeply for people isn't wrong ... it just sometimes weakens your ability to see their inability to care as much for you as you do for them ...

Know this ... finally confessing the truth, when it should have been told right away may lesson your guilt (assuming you are capable of guilt) ... but it causes the person you lied to so much more pain that you couldn't be honest from the start ... 

Thursday, December 5, 2013

'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all ...

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all. (Alfred Lord Tennyson 1850)

I have been in mourning for a month ... 30 days and several hours to be exact.  I have never felt anything like this before.  Oh sure I was in pain when my marriage broke up ... but not like this.  It has been almost 3 years since that pain and it was different.  I was betrayed and lied to and all after being treated like crap for years. I felt stupid and gullible for staying in that loveless marriage for all those years.  But as my mother pointed out to me on Thanksgiving ... it didn't hurt like this because I was not in love with him.  

But I am learning some valuable lessons from this pain ... Just because I want it doesn't mean I can have it ... (most people figure that out when they are 5 not 50) Doing the right thing is hard and doing the wrong thing is easy ... I may never feel love again but I felt it and I never truly did before and so yes it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all ... no matter how much this hurts.  A friend asked me 2 years ago if I wanted the roller coaster or the merry-go-round and I chose the roller coaster ... so it is my own fault.

High school taught me one lesson ... sad to say this is really the only lesson that has stuck with me all my life ... the class was Science but the teacher was more of a philosopher than science teacher ... He said "for as high as you go ... you will go that low ... appreciate the good because the bad will come" I stumbled upon this verse a few weeks ago ... Ecclesiastes 7 verse 14 "when things are going well for you, be glad, and when trouble comes, just remember: God sends both happiness and trouble; you never know what is going to happen next." So this is where I am ... waiting to see what will happen next.  The last chapter of my life was brilliant ... who knows what the next chapter holds ... but it has become abundantly clear that I have no idea what, when or where that chapter will take me.  

I am reminded again of the quote by Lean Horne ... "It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it."  I have always been able to carry the load no matter how heavy ... but this one is breaking me.

My friends all mean well with their words of encouragement and advice ... but they don't feel what I feel ... to quote Brandi Carlile "they don't know who I really am and they don't know what I've been through" ... but it is amazing to me what good friend I have and it helps so much to know they care.  

Part of me holds on to a little hope (even though that makes me feel pathetic) ... but silence speaks volumes and right now the silence is deafening ...

Last weekend I broke one of my favorite things ... and it didn't bother me a bit ... reminded me that I would cry every time I drove by the house I grew up in ... until my sister's boyfriend Harvey died and then I realized things are just things ... but when you lose love that's something to cry about.

Thursday, August 1, 2013

The Juxtaposition of the Dead and the Living . . .

I stumbled upon this beauty a few weeks ago ... very happy I had my camera with me.  It frightened me and intrigued me all at same time ... which is a thrilling sensation that I remember from childhood ... that mix of curiosity and fear is a powerful combo ... I was sure at any moment some sort of zombie was going to get me ... and yet I kept going.  The juxtaposition of the dead and the living was fascinating ...

To see so much life growing in and around something so dead was amazing ...

Thursday, July 4, 2013

and the winner is ........AMY!

OK ... let me set the stage ... it is hot enough to fry an egg out there folks ... so hot at the Annual Delaney 4th of July Celebration ... most everyone is in the pool ... except for Sharon who decided to where white pants and a white button down man's shirt to look official in my job as judge of the "Annual Delaney Girl's Bake Off" (or "smack down" as I like to call it .... and this year it really was one!)  

I was so hot that I went pool side and asked the kids to splash me .... bad idea .... I cooled off ... With a drink called Kinky to cleans my palate I was ready to begin ... I was sent next door to visit my friend Linda while to prep work was done ... When called back the 4 desserts were set before me ... 

The biscuit in the bowl with a sprinkle of cinnamon and sugar, vanilla ice cream, fruit and whip cream (Stacy) was really good ... as was the the cheese cake tart with chocolate chips (Kate) and cheesecake bar with fruit  (Lisa)... but the puff pastry with fruit, chocolate and sweet filling (Amy) was the winner!  

Lisa was not happy!... within seconds of Amy being crowned the winner Lisa's cheesecake was headed for my face... I begged on behalf of my white clothes and was spared ... Amy not so lucky!

Another great 4th of July at the Delaney's!